Should You Have a Registry or Honeymoon Fund for your Destination Wedding?
- Kimberly Jacoby
- Mar 30
- 4 min read
Updated: Mar 30
Planning a destination wedding comes with excitement and, often, a touch of uncertainty. One of the most frequently asked questions is whether it’s appropriate or even polite to include a wedding registry or honeymoon fund when guests are already investing so much to attend your destination wedding. It’s a valid question, and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. But, rest assured, it’s not necessarily rude to have one.
Consider the presence of a registry or honeymoon fund as an optional resource for guests, especially those who may not attend but still want to celebrate you both by getting you a gift. With some thoughtful communication, you can gracefully balance this etiquette tightrope.
A Destination Wedding Registry or Honeymoon Fund Isn’t Just for Guests Attending the Wedding
One major misconception about registries is that they’re only for those attending the wedding. That’s really not the case. It’s common for out-of-town family members, childhood friends, or other loved ones to ask about a registry link even if they’re unable to go to the wedding. So, including a registry or honeymoon fund allows them to celebrate you in a convenient way for everyone.
By providing this option, you give everyone the freedom to choose how they’d like to show their love and support. Just remember, thoughtful wording is everything. More on that below.
Understanding Cultural Norms Around Gifting
Cultural norms surrounding weddings and gifting can vary significantly, and it’s important to keep this in mind, especially if your guest list includes people from diverse backgrounds.
For instance, in many cultures, giving a monetary gift at a wedding is the norm, even with a destination wedding. This could come in the form of cash, checks, or even specific items like gold or household goods. On the other hand, in many Western cultures, registries for physical or practical gifts are standard but only for regular weddings. Then there are traditions where no gifts are expected at all but rather contributions toward a charity or a group experience like a shared meal.
When creating your registry or honeymoon fund, consider your guests’ cultural backgrounds and traditions. If in doubt about what might feel appropriate, you can always communicate directly with close friends or family members from different cultures. This extra step shows you’ve considered their perspectives, which can go a long way.
For example, if you know a specific community on your guest list sees gifting as an essential part of their presence at your wedding, you could include options that reflect their preferences, such as donating in your honor to a meaningful cause or contributing to a group-funded item. On the flip side, if gifting isn’t a cultural expectation for some guests, ensure your website wording doesn’t make them feel out of place or obligated.
How to Gracefully Frame a Registry or Fund using Verbiage
The secret to successfully navigating registries for a destination wedding lies in the wording. Your wedding registry verbiage should convey that while gifts are appreciated, they’re not expected or required. Thoughtful and inclusive phrasing ensures no guest feels pressured to give. For example:
"Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift we could ask for! But for those who’ve asked or wish to honor us with something extra, we’ve created a registry and honeymoon fund.”
"Whether you’re celebrating with us in person or from afar, your love and support mean everything to us! If you feel inclined to give, we’ve thoughtfully created a list of ideas we’d love.”
"Your presence is our present, but for those who wish to contribute, here’s the link to our honeymoon fund. Please know gifts are entirely optional.”
A few sentences like these on your wedding website can create a welcoming tone and prevent any misinterpretations of your intentions.
Creative Ideas for Registries or Funds
Destination weddings often call for nontraditional registries, and they open the door for some truly wonderful and personal options. Here are some of our favorite registry ideas to inspire you:
Honeymoon Fund
Excursions: Ask guests to contribute toward snorkeling trips, guided tours, zip-lining adventures, or any other activities planned at your honeymoon destination.
Spa Treatments: Add relaxing couple’s massages or spa days to your fund.
Dining Experiences: Include gourmet dinners, wine tastings, or brunches that will make your honeymoon extra special.
Travel Upgrades: Consider contributions toward upgraded flights, private transfers, or resort perks like a suite with a view.
Traditional and Hybrid Registries
Home Essentials: Even if you already live together, registry staples like quality cookware or premium linens can help upgrade your home for married life.
Hobbies & Interests: Add gear or experiences related to shared hobbies like camping equipment, art supplies, or dance lessons.
Charity Donations: Some couples prefer donations to a cause close to their heart as an alternative to gifts.
Keepsake or Sentimental Options
Photo or Video Memories: Include contributions toward a professional photographer or videographer so these memories last a lifetime.
Anniversary Funds: Create a fund for a meaningful first-anniversary celebration or experience.
Custom Artwork: Guests can contribute toward a commissioned painting or piece of art to commemorate your wedding day.
The key is to select items or experiences that genuinely fit *you* as a couple and reflect what will bring you joy.
Respecting Guests’ Commitments
While offering a registry or honeymoon fund is entirely appropriate, it’s important to realize the investment your guests are making. Destination weddings often require significant travel expenses, so you should emphasize that their presence is the greatest gift of all.
Making this sentiment clear on your website or in your invitations ensures everyone feels appreciated whether they give a gift or not. A simple “thank you” for their time, effort, and support goes a long way.
Final Thoughts
Every couple dreams of their wedding being a joyful, stress-free celebration, and small gestures like inclusive registry wording and thoughtful planning help ensure your guests feel the same. Whether someone showers you with gifts or simply brings their love and energy to your big day, it’s all about celebrating the start of your new life together.
Including a registry or honeymoon fund isn’t rude when done thoughtfully. It’s a way of giving guests the option to contribute if they wish to, without any pressure. After all, the heart of your wedding is about connection, celebration, and the beginning of a beautiful chapter—not what’s on the gift table.
If you’re navigating tricky wedding etiquette waters, we’re here to help every step of the way.
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