How to Get Guests to Deposit Earlier for Your Destination Wedding
- Kimberly Jacoby
- Jan 11
- 4 min read
Struggling to get your guests to commit with a deposit? You're not alone. Here's how to get earlier buy-in from your guests, secure your room block, and reduce stress, all with the right communication and strategy.
How to Get Guests to Deposit Earlier Without the Stress
Getting guests to deposit earlier for your destination wedding is all about clear timelines, simple instructions, and a touch of urgency. By using the right language, having a centralized wedding website, and working with a destination wedding travel expert who communicates on your behalf, you’ll avoid delays and ensure a smoother planning experience for everyone. Don’t worry. With the right messaging, tools, and support system (hi, that’s us), you can set clear expectations and actually get people to commit early. Here’s what to know.
Why Early Guest Deposits Matter
Late bookings = major wedding stress. When guests delay putting down their deposit, it creates a ripple effect:
You may need to return rooms in your block before they book making prices go up for everyone
You can’t finalize headcounts or event plans
You feel in limbo and stressed for months
Securing early deposits isn’t about being pushy, it’s about protecting your budget, timeline, and peace of mind.
The Psychology Behind Guest Procrastination
Your guests aren’t trying to sabotage your wedding. But they don’t know what they don’t know. Most people aren’t used to booking international trips a year in advance. They assume there’s plenty of time, or they’re unclear on the commitment required.
That’s where your communication makes all the difference.
Step One: Communicate Early, Clearly, and Often
A destination wedding isn’t your typical RSVP. You need to tell your guests what to expect way earlier than you think—and repeat it in multiple formats.
Recommended Timeline:
12–16 months out: Send save-the-dates with travel details or a QR code to your wedding website. Your room block should be officially open and announce the RSVP/deposit deadline.
6–8 months out: Send out your formal invites to those that have RSVP'd and send final reminder emails and last call.
Use email, text, social media, or even a private Facebook group. A wedding website is also non-negotiable, it’s your home base for FAQs, deadlines, and booking links.
Pro Tip: We include custom wedding websites for our destination wedding clients. It’s one less thing for you to DIY. We also include electronic Save the Dates and Wedding Invitations as well.
Step Two: Use the Right Verbiage
The way you ask guests to book makes a huge difference. You’re not just giving them an FYI; you’re guiding them toward action.
Try This Language:
On your website or invites:
"To be part of our wedding group and secure the discounted rate, please reserve your room with deposit by [date]."
In emails or texts:
"We’d love for you to celebrate with us in [destination]! Our group rate requires a deposit by [date], and we'd hate for you to miss out!"
In casual conversations:
"We’re excited you're thinking of coming! Just make sure to get your deposit in by [date] so we can ensure you're on our final headcount"
Avoid vague language like "Let us know if you’re coming." Be specific, clear, and direct.
Step Three: Make It Easy to Say Yes
Your guests are busy. If the booking process is complicated, they’ll put it off.
Here’s how to help them:
Work with a professional (like Romantics Travel) who can handle all bookings.
Provide clear deposit deadlines and what’s due when.
Offer payment plans if available.
Give one point of contact (not you!) to answer questions.
Bonus: We create custom email templates, booking links, and reminders for your guests. You stay stress-free while we keep your wedding on track.
Step Four: Add a Sense of Urgency (Without the Pressure)
Urgency works when it’s real. Let guests know:
"Rooms are limited and fill fast during peak season."
"Booking early guarantees the group rate and amenities."
"Deposits are only $XXX and secure your spot in our wedding."
The goal is to make early action feel smart, not stressful.
Step Five: Let a Travel Expert Handle It
You don’t have to chase people down or field 27 questions about passports. That’s what we’re here for.
At Romantics Travel, we specialize in destination wedding travel coordination, handling the room block strategy, payment plans, guest communication, and so much more. You get:
A personalized wedding website
Clear timelines and deposit reminders
Direct support for your guests (so you don’t have to babysit)
A calm, confident planning experience
and wedding assistance to boot!
Grab Your Free Overwhelmed Brides Guide
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👉 Download our Free Overwhelmed Brides Guide to get expert tips, planning timelines, and helpful checklists.
Let’s Take the Pressure Off
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